Saturday, August 28, 2010 6:26 PM
BGR- now or later?
Here's my take.
Some time back, mummy and i went to
nihon mura for dinner. We discussed much about
BGR and i ask her for her opinions to many things, like the guy i should have, at what age and stuff like that. She did try to dig information from me about my and sissy's love life. Well, I told her mine as I find it totally alright and open to do so, but didn't divulge about sissy's as I know she may still wanna keep some things secret.
Since young, my parents told my sister and I not to get into a relationship so early. At first, during my extremely rebellious years, I didn't understand it at all. I find that their preaching and advice were totally annoying! Engaging in some childish flirts was all that I ever dare do since daddy and mummy were against teenage dating.
As I grow, as I mature, I understand the innate concern a parent has for his child. I deal with these fruitless relationships in a much more mature way which was to ignore it.
After weighing the pros and cons of this kind of relationship, I saw that there was no need in me getting into a relationship now.
Here's why I don't want to have a boyfriend now.
My expectations One of my main expectation is to have a christian boyfriend. cliche for a christian girl right? But i truly mean it
hah! I believe that having a partner of the same faith would save myself from troubles in the future. For example, our views on different things in life like evolution. In addition, I do need someone who is stronger in this faith than me as I have the old-fashioned view that the guy should lead the girl(:
Monetary wealth is secondary, but of course I expect that guy to be able to support himself and me right?
hahas!
My attitudeI'm going to treat any relationship that come my way seriously. I will take this kind of relationship as a step towards marriage.
hahas! I'm not saying this because I'm trying to act holy or whatsoever not. I've seen many loved ones around me getting hurt because of a single word - breakups. Not prepared to face with such hurt, I rather leave away from anything that would bring me close to it. Unless I'm sure that the guy is serious with me, I would never want to go steady with him. I rather be single than to be in a wrong relationship.
On the other hand, there are people around me who say that I should try going into a relationship and see how thing goes, which i strongly disagree. Actually such things are more on a perception issue. Some find that this would be a good way to find out what character you're looking in partner. Others find that such relationships are a waste of time and you may even miss 'the one' while in that futile relationship. Well, I belong to the latter category.
The guysTo be honest, I do find guys who ask me to go steady are immature. I don't believe that they are really treating this relationship seriously so what for I waste my time on you uh??
In my opinion, guys should be more honest with their feelings? What for hang around the girl and try to drop hints but yet the hints are not so obvious? They should just have more courage to say "I like you" simple? or it just boils down to your ego? afraid that it would be crush?
hmm...
Ahwell! I just haven't met you yet!
The timingI'm not someone who can really focus on
alot of things at one time. Many close friends around would be able to tell. During exam period or when studies just gets to taxing, I would almost cut myself out of the social networking world like
facebook,
twitter and even to blog. I think I would make a mess out of a relationship as I wouldn't be able to give much of my time and effort into this relationship and that would be unfair to the guy right?
okays! that's all I have in mind right now! Relationship for me? yes, but not now
heh! Wait till I see you my love!
till then,
loves,
JOllyn`